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As he sat<\/span> down across from me, my patient had a rueful expression on his face.<\/p>\n

\u201cI had a date,\u201d he announced. \u201cIt didn\u2019t go well.\u201d<\/p>\n

That wasn\u2019t unusual for this patient. For years, he\u2019d shared tales of romantic hopes dashed. But before I could ask him what went wrong, he continued, \u201cSo I asked a chatbot what I should do.\u201d<\/p>\n

Um. What? Simulations of human conversation powered by artificial intelligence\u2014chatbots\u2014have been much in the news, but I\u2019d never had a patient tell me they\u2019d actually used one for advice before.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhat did it tell you?\u201d I asked, curious.<\/p>\n

\u201cTo tell her that I care about her values.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cOh. Did it work?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cTwo guesses,\u201d he sighed and turned up his hands. Although this patient was the first, it\u2019s now become a regular occurrence in my therapy practice to hear from new patients that they have consulted chatbots before consulting me. Most often, it\u2019s for love and relationship advice, but it might also be to connect or set boundaries with their children or to straighten out a friendship that has gone awry. The results have been decidedly mixed.<\/p>\n

One new patient asked the chatbot how to handle the anniversary of a loved one\u2019s death. Put aside time in your day to remember what was special about the person<\/em>, advised the bot. I couldn\u2019t have said it better myself.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhat it wrote made me cry,\u201d the patient said. \u201cI realized that I have been avoiding my grief. So, I made this appointment.\u201d<\/p>\n

Another patient started relying on AI when her friends began to wear thin. \u201cI can\u2019t burn out my chatbot,\u201d she told me.<\/p>\n

As a therapist, I\u2019m both alarmed and intrigued by AI\u2019s potential to enter the therapy business. There\u2019s no doubt that AI is the future. Already, it has shown itself to be useful in everything from writing cover letters and speeches to planning trips and weddings. So why not let it help with our relationships as well? A new venture called Replika, the \u201cAI companion who cares,\u201d has taken it a step further and has even created romantic avatars for people to fall in love with. Other sites, like Character.ai, allow you to chat and hang out with your favorite fictional characters, or build a bot to talk to on your own.<\/p>\n

But we live in an age of misinformation. We\u2019ve already seen disturbing examples of how algorithms spread lies and conspiracy theories among unwitting or ill-intentioned humans. What will happen when we let them into our emotional lives?<\/p>\n

\u201cEven though AI may articulate things like a human, you have to ask yourself what its goal is,\u201d says Naama Hoffman, an assistant professor in the Department of Psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine, Mount Sinai Hospital, in New York City. \u201cThe goal in relationships or in therapy is to improve quality of life, whereas the goal of AI is to find what is cited most. It\u2019s not supposed to help, necessarily.\u201d<\/p>\n

As a therapist, I know that my work can benefit from outside support. I have been running trauma groups for two decades, and I have seen how the scaffolding of a psychoeducational framework, especially an evidence-based one like Seeking Safety, facilitates deeper emotional work. After all, the original chatbot, Eliza, was designed to be a \u201cvirtual therapist\u201d because it asked endlessly open questions\u2014and you can still use it. Chatbots may help people find inspiration or even break down defenses and allow people to enter therapy. But where is the point at which people become overly dependent on machines?<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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