{"id":17692,"date":"2023-10-17T05:45:33","date_gmt":"2023-10-17T05:45:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mysourcefunding.com\/leadership\/expert-tips-on-how-to-be-the-best-version-of-yourself\/"},"modified":"2023-10-17T05:45:34","modified_gmt":"2023-10-17T05:45:34","slug":"expert-tips-on-how-to-be-the-best-version-of-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mysourcefunding.com\/?p=17692","title":{"rendered":"Expert Tips On How To Be The Best Version Of Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"
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A lot of people these days bill themselves as performance coaches.<\/p>\n

But I haven\u2019t met one yet whose credentials can match those of Greg Harden.<\/p>\n

For decades, people from all walks of life have come to Harden for advice and direction. He\u2019s perhaps best known for his work with seven-time Super Bowl champion quarterback Tom Brady, Heisman Trophy winner and Super Bowl MVP Desmond Howard, and 23-time Olympic gold medalist Michael Phelps. He\u2019s also coached dozens of NFL first-round draft picks, 120 Olympians from more than 20 countries, plus hundreds of other world-class athletes, doctors, lawyers, teachers, and business leaders.<\/p>\n

Harden\u2019s new book is STAY SANE in an Insane World: How to Control the Controllables and Thrive.<\/em><\/p>\n

Harden says \u201chuman beings are the only creatures with the ability to decide they\u2019re not going to be the same today as they were yesterday.\u201d So, how does that mindset affect a person\u2019s ability to change?<\/p>\n

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\u201cIt opens a door for someone to know that change, which is inevitable, is something they can embrace,\u201d he says. \u201cUnlike other creatures, who cannot decide to be different, it opens a door in your mind and makes it clear you absolutely have the ability to improve, to find out what\u2019s working and not working, and to look in the mirror and decide what you like and don\u2019t like. Then you can deliberately and intentionally transform yourself in the areas that need improvement.\u201d<\/p>\n

Harden quotes Eleanor Roosevelt as saying,\u201cNo one can make you feel inferior without your permission.\u201d That idea seems related to the \u201cimposter syndrome\u201d that often affects people in the workplace.<\/p>\n

\u201cThe \u2018imposter syndrome\u2019 has one craving attention and approval from others,\u201d Harden says. \u201cYou\u2019re someone who is constantly picking yourself apart. With that mindset, if someone comes guns blazing at you and you\u2019re the type who is always afraid of failing and always doubting yourself, you become an even easier target to someone who wants you to feel inferior.\u201d<\/p>\n

Some people sabotage their own success with what Harden calls \u201cSDABs,\u201d or \u201cself-defeating attitudes and behaviors.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cThe most common SDABs are not letting go of yesterday\u2019s baggage, blaming others, and not being able to handle constructive criticism,\u201d he says. \u201cTo replace those pieces, you need to allow yesterday\u2019s baggage to be P.A.S.T.\u2014Previous Actions Somewhere in Time. You must allow that past to be what it is\u2014history. It\u2019s about not letting the hurts of a 12, 13, 14-year-old drag into your life as a 30-year-old. Blaming others becomes a habit. But when you are solution-focused, taking responsibility for your role in any scenario is enhanced. If there\u2019s a problem, instead of making excuses and blaming others, you begin to take ownership of the problem. If you become committed to looking at what can be done to solve an issue, you then break that habit.\u201d <\/strong><\/p>\n

Harden says being critically conscious of your \u201cwhy\u201d is an important step to gaining clarity of purpose that enables high achievement. \u201cIf my purpose is to help people and change lives, and I\u2019m not confused about that or questioning it,\u2019 he says, \u201cit increases my ability to be effective and achieve a higher level of performance.\u201d<\/p>\n

Self-confidence, he says, plays an important role in responding proactively to change. \u201cWhen you attribute your success to hard work and not to luck, you begin to develop confidence that not only can you handle change, but you\u2019re also confident that you can thrive because you have data that says you have been successful in the throes of change.\u201d<\/p>\n

There are some in our society who seem determined to promote a victim versus oppressor narrative. Harden has an insightful response to that viewpoint.<\/p>\n

\u201cIf we\u2019re clear we\u2019re not talking about child abuse, domestic violence, elder abuse, or genocide, then I\u2019d say you have to push people to not self-identify in the role of victim,\u201d he says. \u201cTo be victorious over that, we must not just try to survive but also train ourselves to thrive and overcome all weapons formed against us. You must state to any and all: You will not have power over me. You will not have power over the way I think. You will not have power over the way I feel. In training myself to control the controllables, I am consistent at rejecting the idea of being the victim.\u201d <\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cGet out of your own way\u201d is advice Harden often gives to people he coaches.<\/p>\n

\u201cThe greatest enemy any of us have ever faced is fear and self-doubt,\u201d he says. \u201cYou have to train yourself that fear and self-doubt are predictable, therefore they are manageable. You also have to be willing to commit that the enemy within\u2014your own thoughts, attitudes, and behavior\u2014will not be allowed to sabotage your goals and your dreams.\u201d <\/strong><\/p>\n

Harden says a personal SWOT analysis (Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, Threats) can be useful in a self-improvement journey.<\/p>\n

\u201cA great SWOT analysis should be a dramatic episode in self-honesty,\u201d he says. \u201cIt opens the door to being critically conscious of what is working and what is not working in my life. What do I need to eliminate from the ways I\u2019m operating? What do I need to enhance and improve on in the ways I\u2019m operating? Being able to recognize the opportunities that are around me, and the threats to my personal success, helps me create personal goals.\u201d<\/p>\n

Harden offers examples: \u201cIf one of my weaknesses is negative self-talk, I can deliberately decide to increase my awareness of when I do it, how often I do it, and what are the phrases in my head that are redundant and damaging. I can train myself to let the habit of negative self-talk trigger new habits. If one of my strengths is being good at building people up, I can make a commitment to increase the number of times in a day that I take advantage of that strength and build stronger relationships and organizations and work groups.\u201d<\/p>\n

A mindset that Harden recommends to anyone seeking top performance is what he calls he 100% challenge.<\/p>\n

\u201c<\/strong>That challenge suggests I have to practice train and rehearse in pushing myself in everything I do, especially the things I don\u2019t like,\u201d he says. \u201cIf we\u2019re talking about studying, or pursuing adult learning activities, I not only increase the number of opportunities to do it, but I give everything I\u2019ve got in that setting. If I can give 100% to the things I don\u2019t even like, by the time I get to the things that I love, I will have developed a habit where pushing myself is now second nature. And it reinforces that the mental game is<\/em> the game.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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