{"id":11466,"date":"2023-08-29T06:17:04","date_gmt":"2023-08-29T06:17:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mysourcefunding.com\/leadership\/challenge-the-stories-you-tell-yourself\/"},"modified":"2023-08-29T06:17:05","modified_gmt":"2023-08-29T06:17:05","slug":"challenge-the-stories-you-tell-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mysourcefunding.com\/?p=11466","title":{"rendered":"Challenge The Stories You Tell Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Bob is a big car guy. He loves horsepower. The rumble of a classic glasspack muffler is like a symphony to his ears. He has a buddy who owns a mint condition 1968 Corvette Roadster, cherry red.<\/p>\n

Bob has salivated over that car for years. Suddenly the car is for sale and Bob had better move fast because his friend is already getting feelers from other car enthusiasts. Bob quickly goes to his broker and pulls thousands of dollars from his already eroded retirement fund. He buys the car of his dreams and is sure this is the happiest day of his life.<\/p>\n

He takes the Corvette out for its first road test. It\u2019s a beautiful day. Wind blows in his face as he races down a country highway.<\/p>\n

Bob isn\u2019t sure what he\u2019s enjoying most, the noise and vibration of all that horsepower he\u2019s riding or the surge of testosterone through his body.<\/p>\n

Then, out of nowhere, a young boy appears and throws a rock smack into the side of Bob\u2019s dream car. Wham!<\/p>\n

Bob\u2019s immediate thought goes something like \u201cHmm, let\u2019s see. In this jurisdiction would what I\u2019m about to do constitute cold-blooded murder or would it simply be justifiable homicide?\u201d Well, something like that. Let\u2019s just say that Bob instantly shifts gears from being a gratified automobile enthusiast to being a raving maniac in the grasp of a serious case of road rage. He slams on the brakes, throws the Corvette into reverse, and burns rubber all fifty yards back to where the rock-thrower is standing. But instead of finding a boy with a look of terror on his face, he discovers a boy with a look of pleading, even supplication. \u201cMister, I\u2019m so sorry about hitting your car with a rock. But I\u2019ve tried to flag down other people and nobody will stop. My little brother is over there in the tall grass. He\u2019s had a seizure and we\u2019ve lost his medicine. Can you please <\/em>help us?\u201d<\/p>\n

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How does Bob feel now? How do you <\/em>feel now?<\/p>\n

In an instant, Bob is transformed from a raging hothead ready to do damage to a child a fraction of his age … to a compassionate and empathic grownup willing to provide grownup help to someone in need.<\/p>\n

Why the quick turnaround? With a fresh set of data (a boy taking a risk to help his little brother versus a punk kid doing vandalism), Bob changed his \u201cstory.\u201d With a fresh story came a new set of feelings. And with a new set of feelings came a very different kind of action: help rather than harm.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s the power of the stories we tell ourselves.<\/p>\n

On a drive along California\u2019s central coast, I noticed an interesting bumper sticker on the vehicle in front of me: \u201cDon\u2019t believe everything you think.\u201d<\/p>\n

Unlike most bumper stickers, this one caused me to ponder the layers of meaning and even to challenge\u2014well, to challenge my own thinking.<\/p>\n

Everything we do is a product of our thinking. Every single act is rooted in a thought. Our thoughts may be subtle or even unconscious, but they nevertheless are at the root of our behavior.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s how it works. Let\u2019s say you\u2019re with a group of people and they laugh at you. Based on that observation, you instantly tell yourself a story. It goes something like \u201cThey\u2019re mocking me. They\u2019re ridiculing me. They\u2019re belittling my ideas.\u201d That story then spawns a feeling, which could range from hurt to anger. You then act on that feeling. Maybe you defend yourself, or go silent, or even get up and leave.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s another scenario. You\u2019re with a group of people and they laugh at you. Based on that observation, you instantly tell yourself a story. It goes something like \u201cIt\u2019s really fun to be with my friends. That\u2019s why we decided to hold this Super Bowl party. They\u2019re not laughing at me out of ridicule, but out of friendship and camaraderie.\u201d That story then spawns feelings that could range from amusement to outright joy. You then act on that feeling. Maybe you join in the laughter, maybe you poke fun at the other guy. You enjoy the moment.<\/p>\n

Do you see the difference? In both instances, people laughed at you. But your path to action produced vastly different behaviors, and the critical variable was the story you told yourself. The difference was your thinking.<\/p>\n

At one time or another, most of us have claimed that our emotions\u2014our feelings\u2014are imposed on us, that we have no control. Have you ever said something like \u201cHe makes me so mad!\u201d? The reality, tough though it may be to swallow, is that nobody can make <\/em>us be mad, or glad, or sad, or anything else. We choose <\/em>our feelings based on the stories we tell ourselves. Then our feelings lead to actions that produce results. If we don\u2019t like our results we can challenge our own thinking, be- cause what we think <\/em>is what launches us on our path to action that produces our results.<\/p>\n

At first blush, this idea may come across as a touchy-feely mind game. It\u2019s not. The ability to improve our results by challenging our own thinking is one of the most powerful skills we can develop. It can unlock our true potential by freeing us from the constraints of the stories we often tell ourselves.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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